“Hey Sal, My boyfriend bought me a spa certificate for my birthday and I’m very grateful and very excited. The only thing is - I’ve never been to one before and don’t know how to act, what to wear, what to expect, etc. Can you prep me for my pampering?”
- Scarlett, Chicago, IL

Scarlett,

First things first - hang on to that boyfriend, he’s a keeper!

Now, there are a few Cider House Rules to remember when visiting a spa, regardless of what type of treatment you plan to receive. Spas offer a relaxing space for you to transition from the outside world and into their hands - so arrive a half hour early and unwind. You’ll want to have time to take advantage of the “extras” most spas offer in the transition area, such as steam rooms, whirlpools, and saunas.

They’ll provide a robe for you, so simply wear clothes and underwear that you’re comfortable in (there will be other women in the transition room - so only wear a birthday suit if you’re comfortable being seen in it while you’re changing). And please, save yourself the trouble and leave your jewelry and other valuables at home. Most spas ado not claim responsibility for lost or stolen items, so… Why take that risk?

Before you arrive, ask if gratuities are included. Chances are they’re not, so be sure and bring a customary 15 percent in cash. Also, communicate your spa experience level and ask to be matched to a technician that works well with your needs. Once in the service, remember - you set the tone. If you want to talk to your technician, go ahead, and they’ll follow your lead. The same goes if you prefer a more meditative environment. It’s all part of communicating to your technician. Your likes, your dislikes. A good spa will ask you these things beforehand, so don’t be afraid to be honest.

And Scarlett, for god’s sake, please DON’T: talk on your cell phone, arrive late, be rude to the staff, fail to tip, or forget to hydrate both before and after your service.

- Sal

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